Panic If You Must, Then Pivot
When is the last time someone told you to calm down, and it worked? I’m not seeing a lot of raised hands. Having someone tell us we’re overreacting is annoying and condescending. Infuriating, even. It makes you want to blind them with the whites of your eyes as you lean in menacingly close and yell, “No, you calm down,” preferably in public. (Or maybe that’s just me.) The point is that telling us not to feel what we’re feeling seldom works, and often makes it worse because now we’re angry, too, and that is not a good look on anyone. I want you not to panic about the ...