Treat Yourself

Next week is Valentine’s Day and I’m sure many of you are getting ready to celebrate with the one you love. Whether it’s a significant other, relative, or close friend, it’s always nice to acknowledge those who matter most on this special day. For those of you who might not have someone to spoil with chocolates and decadence on what some of us call “Singles Awareness Day,” why not consider spoiling yourself?

Start your morning off right by making yourself a heart-shaped stack of pancakes to remind yourself that you are loved, no matter how many carbs you may be ingesting to fill the void of lonesomeness before your day begins. Play an upbeat mix of music on your way to work consisting of all the empowering songs about loving yourself while throwing in Beyonce’s “Single Ladies.” As the soundtrack plays on your way into the office, it’ll help drown out the “oohs” and “awws” as you notice the excessive display of flowers and balloons on your co-workers’ desks, while yours sits desolate, just like your love life.

After you’ve enjoyed those V-Day flap-jacks and endured listening to your co-worker gush all day about their significant other, decompress by focusing on yourself. Get lost in an exercise routine and learn to love your body. There is nothing better than feeling healthy and building the confidence of making you a better person. Head to the gym for an intense workout or attend a yoga class to find your inner Zen. And let’s not forget that the day after Valentine’s, all of the store’s candy is half off so you can stock up on essentials for that cheat day you allow yourself once a week.

When you think about it, Feb. 14 is just another marketing ploy for couples to conform to wasting money on extravagant gifts and increasing revenue for the restaurant business catering to romantic dinners for two. Like clockwork, more than half of the male species will be seen gathering last minute in the Hallmark aisle rummaging for a mediocre, yet obscenely over-priced, card with just the right amount of mushiness to ensure their role as the romantic lover.

Think of all the money you’re saving by not wasting it on frivolous gifts for your Valentine and instead be spontaneous and buy yourself a massage, splurge on that bottle of perfume you’ve been sampling at the department store counter, or go big and treat yourself to a single’s cruise and discover a new adventure.

Don’t fall for the hype that everyone who is paired off is happier than those who are still flying solo. There are many happy single people out there; I promise you. Instead of feeling down on Valentine’s Day, celebrate the achievements that validate you being a good person, a person who has space for love should it come along but who does not need such a relationship to create self-worth and happiness.

There are plenty of Valentine’s Days in a lifetime just as there are plenty of possible people with whom you could eventually fall in love. In the meantime, learn to love yourself and the life you’re living. So, when someone asks, “do you have a date for Valentine’s Day?” Tell them, “Yes, Feb. 14th.”